Today we met a new adopting couple in town, the Yaegers. We went and visited with then at the Skiff...and visited...and visited...and visited. We were joined by the Oborn's and it was so nice to just relax and hang out, nothing to do, nowhere to be...and lots to share about lives and adventures here.
Being here can feel very isolating in many ways, and you begin to wish for more things that are familiar. It's not that this is all that bad, but after awhile you really feel the distance from home, from your "real" life, and this begins to seem a bit like the movie Groundhog Day with the monotony of every day being much the same. The boys were sweet and allowed me the down time to just yack, and quietly played at a table with the computer and a few toys they brought along. The Skiff is the hotel almost every adopting couple stays at when in town, so after all these years it was nice to see it in person.
You know, being here is a bit like summer camp. You are going through an intense experience, with no one around you that you know, and you lean on those who are here. We all talked about the movies we brought so we can pass them around, the foods we brought or that got left behind, the differences in our experiences up until now. And with all of the things that make us each individuals and unique, there is this shared thing that we know most people back in our "real lives" might not ever really fully understand...the emotions and almost unreal experience of a child being brought to meet you whom you will agree to parent and yet don't even know yet, the frustrations of simply being here and feeling like a toddler being led around by the hand, the laughter over English translations and odd product labels, and the singular joy of becoming a parent through adoption.
It is nice that we have such great folks to share this with while we are here!