Sunday, April 29, 2012

Vacation? Field Trip? Self-Revelation?

Is it a vacation?  Is it a field trip?  Is it family down time?  How about a combo of all of the aforementioned!  We have learned so much as we discover things about Colorado history that we didn't know, or had only a little knowledge of.  We have also thoroughly enjoyed our time together, something of which we often don't ever seem to get enough of.  I know that sounds a little odd, considering we homeschool and also spend more time together than a lot of families do, but we really and truly love being together.  Do we drive each other nuts sometimes?  Of course we do!  But we also know how blessed and fortunate we are to have each other to drive one another crazy.  Maybe that alone is the difference, when you recognize what you once didn't have, you don't take it for granted...and I don't mean just the kids on that one.  Dominick and I spent plenty of years dating and married without children, and maybe that makes this time in our lives all the more precious.

For the field trip part of our trip, we are taking advantage of being here in Denver and seeing as much as possible, and there is a LOT to see and do!  For those of you who don't homeschool, you may not realize that there is a big conflict between many who homeschool the traditional route...with no government oversight...and those of us who are part of a public alternative education program like the one we participate in.  Believe it or not, simply because we accept funding from our school district and agree to use secular curriculum, we have been told we are not "real" homeschoolers.  It doesn't matter if all the education is done at home, it doesn't matter if in fact I use fewer outside educators than many "real" homeschoolers do, and it doesn't matter if  we spend hours and hours learning and growing together.  In fact, I was denied the membership in a neighboring town's homeschool group because we are not "real" homeschoolers due to the fact that we accept government funding and are therefore under the control of the government.  I will never understand why human beings do their very best to segregate themselves, no matter what the issue.  Doesn't matter why, we humans will always find a way to divide and create reasons in our own mind that justify ill treatment of others.  

However, I was thinking today how wonderful it was that we receive a little of our educational tax dollars back so we can use them to enhance our learning this way.  For our older adopted kids, in particular, it has proven to be incredibly valuable and I am certain it has helped the girls learn English faster as well as better understand American life.  They NEED to get out of a classroom, they NEED to see, touch and feel things.  It helps them make connections, and two years home now I am seeing more and more how our work during year 1 is allowing them to build their new learning on top of it.  Throughout the past couple of days I have heard constantly "Oh, that is like..." or "Remember when..." and it has reminded me of the value of hands on, in person education for any child.  We would never be able to do what we have done the past couple of years with the kids without our school, and I am 100% certain that the benefits outweigh any perceived downside, at least for us.

Yesterday we went on a mine tour, descending 1000' below ground into what was once a real working gold mine here in Cripple Creek, Colorado.  We had an excellent tour with a guide who kept the language simple and easy to understand, so all 5 kids got a lot out of it.  They were shown step by step the way machines had changed over the years and how mining developed, and we saw firsthand just how dangerous it was to work in a mine.  It was really a great experience, and since we live in an area where we are surrounded by mines, old and currently operating, it helped bring it all to life for everyone.  Here are a few photos:

 Rockin' the hard hats and ready to go down the shaft!

 Above ground and below ground, Team LaJoy is ready to get to work!

 The entire family made Angela stand by this sign and read it carefully.  'Nuff said :-0

 This is one photo of the inside of the mine.  All the tracks are still present, lighting is everywhere for the tours, and there were stations set up with all the equipment throughout the tunnels.  We got to hear how loud each one was and see how it worked when our guide, a 35+ year veteran of working underground showed everything to us.  In some odd way, I found the mine tunnels beautiful.

Checking out one of the ways miners used transportation underground, Olesya wouldn't even get on it, I think it scared her a little!

We drove around Cripple Creek and then had an interesting "connect the dots" conversation about how towns spring up like this...mining towns, railroad towns, oil towns, etc.  I questioned the kids about the kinds of businesses that would be needed to support the miners, and we talked about how in the old days towns like this would always have saloons, laundries, boarding houses and bordellos.  Then we talked about prostitution and how it is the world's oldest profession, where it is legal and why it is illegal.  What I loved most was how this then drifted into treating women with respect, and how women also need to respect themselves...topics that all the kids need to give some thought to.  

Cripple Creek is a couple hours from Denver, and we had to pass through Colorado Springs to get there, so we stopped in Colorado Springs to see the Garden of the Gods with its stunning red rock formation.  We spent a couple of hours wandering around, watching some of the rock climbers whose talents were almost impossible to believe, and observing wildlife.  Of course the kids did some low level climbing of their own.

 It was a little late in the day to show off the rocks from the location we were at, but at it's best it looks like this...not photographed by me:

I loved this photo of Josh, every once in awhile with all the kids I'll get a natural unguarded, un-goofy smile.

 The entire gang goofing around.  Unposed they always come up with better groupings than I could ever direct.

 Angela insisted on taking these photos, and since Lael commented about needing one of me on the blog, I decided to post them.  When I looked at them my first thought was "Wow, we are really growing old!".  I see so many blogs with very photogenic mommies and daddies, and that just isn't happenin' here...but that doesn't really matter much in the long run, does it?

We all arrived at the hotel room and completely flopped down on couches and beds, exhausted and happy. We slept in this morning and got a little later start, which was just fine with all of us.  We decided this morning to change our schedule a little and headed to the Denver Art Museum, and the brand new Colorado History Museum which just opened yesterday.  Arriving on a special day, we were able to watch Native American dancers as they performed outside the museums, and that served to enhance our experience inside where we visited the Native American exhibit along with many others.  The kids found a corner where they had set up activities for learning more about the culture and art including beading, etc.  I had to eventually drag them away as they were really enjoying what they were doing:

I am thinking that mosaic tile work might be in our near future!

 Josh was fascinated by an art book featuring all sorts of famous works and artists in a variety of styles.  He sat with it for over 30 minutes and wanted to know if our library had it.  I may just have to find it for him!

Did we come to the museum to view art, or to create it?  The area was nicely set up and the kids all were was Dad, at least for a minute or two.

Taking kids to an art museum and having a good experience means not forcing them to spend tons of time viewing exhibits that they have no interest in, and letting them sort of steer you through the museum.  We bypassed Asian art, stepping off the elevator, looking for a moment or two, and stepping right back on.  However, we did find the African art exhibits to be very interesting, and in fact Angela and I both were taken with the same artist's work, Moyo Ogundipe:

I LOVED this!  Up close it was astounding, the colors were bright and the patterns in each tiny section were so interesting to look at.

We all headed over to the modern art exhibits, and that is where we struck gold, figuratively speaking.  Everyone found a variety of works which captivated us.  Of course, there were plenty of works that were a tad bit underwhelming...paintings of a black box on a yellow canvas and other such ordinary looking things that the kids all said "And THAT is art?  They got PAID for that?", but then there were some really thought provoking pieces as well:

This was very unique and we all stood there with our mouths agape as we walked through it.  Red everything, and we wondered what the meaning of it all was.

Then there was this piece:

Angela quietly said "This reminds me of the Holocaust."

 They each found pieces that made them stop, look, and think...and I was glad to witness that.

The last exhibit we saw ended up being the favorite of several of us, and it was the pin/brooch exhibit of former Secretary of State, Madeleine Albright.  I had heard about her pin collection and the book that was written about it, and was intrigued so I was pleased we would have the opportunity to see it.  Wow!!  It was a tremendously moving collection to view, and to have the symbolism of many items in the collection explained.  We were fascinated enough to want to try and find that book as well.  The quotes on the wall of Madeleine's were equally interesting, here is one:

We walked a block down and visited the newly opened Colorado State History museum, which had a limited number of exhibits opened.  Though it was not fully complete, we still enjoyed it very much and it was very interactive.  We learned a lot about the internment of the Japanese in a Colorado camp, which was something we knew little about.  This museum will be a real destination when it is finished in the next couple of years, and even Dominick said he would like to return to see what all is eventually added.

The most important part of the day came when we least expected it, and that was on the drive back to the hotel.  I have no idea how the topic got started, but somehow we ended up speaking about our own individual weaknesses, and our personal fears.  Holy Moly, was there some honesty there, and conversation turned hushed and quite honest as we talked about things we need to work on, how those weaknesses will affect each of us as we mature, and there was a lot of sharing going on about Dominick and I and how our relationship works based upon acceptance of our individual weaknesses and playing to our strengths.  The self-evaluation was pretty accurate and without judgment, just practical and matter of fact.  

I am always humbled by the courage our kids show, the honesty, and the maturity that they walk through this world with, even when it is very, very hard.  Angela was incredibly open as she shared about how hard it is for her to feel close to people, how she gets along well with others and likes them, but she is particularly careful about who she lets enter her heart.  I was able to tell her how happy I was that she decided to let me in, and we had even more conversation about her "weakness" about sometimes valuing strength over softness, and how it is indeed possible to be both.  She admitted that it is very hard for her and that in her old life she had to be tough and strong.  She also questioned why she lied a lot in Kazakhstan, and yet here she doesn't want to at all.

Olesya, as always, remained very sweet girl finds it so very hard to talk about her feelings, and Joshua said outright that it is hard for him to talk about things because he doesn't feel he can trust a lot of people with his secrets and thoughts.  We all laughed as we talked about how men often  find it a challenge to open up about what they feel, and that many are like Matthew...the "strong, silent" type, but Angela surprisingly brought up that when Matthew is in the mood, he is very able to talk about his feelings.  He then added that sometimes he remains quiet because he needs time to think things through, and he wants to have the right answer the first time and speak about what he really believes rather than correct himself later. Kenny, on the other hand is one we all agreed is very good at talking about feelings.  

So, our evening ended with a sense of revealing ourselves even more to one another, growing closer as we admit our fears and failures, our joys and sorrows.  How fortunate we are, I remind myself daily, that we all exist within a family where we feel safe and secure enough to be less than perfect, and where we are constantly encouraged to be more than we think we can be.  What starts out as a simple conversation so often becomes something richer and deeper than I ever imagined it would be. Seven souls locked together by hearts that are willing to be connected, willing to see more and feel more than many would be willing to risk.  It's hard work, it's also awesome work.


Anonymous said...

Please thank Angela for the beautiful pictures of you and Dominick. I don't know what you consider "photogenic" but photographing love and joy and laughter is much more photogenic than pictures that reflect our cultures obsession with "beauty". This is true beauty.

"Seven souls locked together by hearts that are willing to be connected, willing to see more and feel more than many would be willing to risk. It's hard work; it's also awesome work."

You are all beautiful from surface to deepest soul within.

Anonymous said...

Lael is right on, as usual. Those pics of you as a loving, funny couple are PRICELESS! So glad you are having a good time, and time to connect with Team LaJoy in new ways. We miss you!

Mr Steve and Ms Jane

Shannon said...

What an amazing trip! That's a whole lot of education, fun and growth in a very short amount of time. You LaJoy's really amaze me! And the photos of you guys are beautiful!!