Friday, May 30, 2008

Holy Moly!!

This vacation has turned out to be rather exciting due to an unexpected turn of events. We had a phenomenal time at Disneyland...we opened the park and we closed it with only Joshie taking a short nap in a stroller late in the day. We hit both California Adventure as well as most of the rides at Disneyland, I got almost no pictures because we were on the run and more concerned with enjoying ourselves than documenting the trip. We had several highlights to the day, as we all sat "ooohing" and "aaaahhhing" over the Soarin' Over California ride...what an experience! We loved meeting our friend face to face who helped us gain entry to Disneyland, we all enjoyed the absolutely perfect weather and the short lines.

But the thing that cracked us up the most was at the end of the evening, when Kenny finally found the perfect souvenir to take home. A friend of his from school had gone to Disneyland over Spring Break and found a set of Mickey Mouse ears that had lights in the ears, and we finally found them at a store on our way out of the park. I wandered down the street to look while the boys were getting Kenny's name sewn on the ears. As I was walking back toward them, trying to locate them in the crowd, I see this shadowy figure in the darkness waving his head back and forth...with only lighted ears to see!! What a riot as Dominick told Kenny to move his head like a radar dish so Mommy could find them...and all the boys, big and small, thought this was hilarious and were almost rolling on the floor with laughter. So we took our human radar dish and our day was over.

We have admittedly had some challenges with Kenny while on the trip, nothing major but things that could not be ignored or put aside. I felt it creeping up the last week or two prior to leaving for California, as it really is cyclical in nature, but there was nothing I could do to curb it. It always revolves around control for him, and he has had this strong urge lately to again "be the daddy" and run the show. We have about 2 weeks of this usually, then about 4-5 weeks when he is more open to being parented easily, to relinquishing control. I have joked about it, but it is still true, that when Kenny is in "the mode" he will even try to tell me exactly how to comb his hair, where I am to put things in the house, when I should do laundry, etc. Although he does so in a kind way, usually, it is still his way of dominating the other person, of parenting himself...of not trusting us to do the job well enough to satisfy him. Today he ended up sitting on the couch for a couple of hours and then off to bed at 7:30 for an incident where he decided to tell Josh what to do in a Daddy-like way...and after several warnings over the past few days it was time to take action. But despite these kinds of things, the trip has been a lot of fun for Kenny as well as everyone else...frustrating at moments, but not bad enough to really turn everything sour, thankfully. The good news is that if it runs true to form, about the time we get home he should be back in "Mellow Mode" and we will have an easier time of it.

As if this trip was not filled with enough joy, this morning we received an unexpected email.

Holy Moly, it is happening...yes, after spending a day in the "Land Where Dreams Come True" we had our own dream come true. It seems we have a busier summer than we anticipated ahead of us, and I am about to get writers cramp from paperwork that needs to be completed. If no other road blocks are placed in our path, we are finally able to move forward with our adoption plans!!!

Honestly, as I write that, I am having a hard time absorbing it, not sure if I can let go and trust it after the false starts and stops we have experienced along the way. I have decided to put it aside for the remainder of our trip, other than sharing the good news, and will face all that lies ahead once we return. We have much to think about, much to do, much to prepare our hearts for. We also have much praise to offer the One who moves mountains, as He surely moved mountains this time.

So, a couple more days of pretending our life is simple, and then we return to tackle a new adventure. I think my days of multi-tasking are only beginning!!!


julievilardo said...

Cyndi and Family
Congratulations on the wonderful vacation and news! I am so happy for you!

Anonymous said...

Cindy, Congratulations!!!!! This is SOOOO exciting! I am overjoyed for you all especially the girls! God knew right where they should be. Congrats again!


pearly1979 said...

Wow!! So happy to read this great news! Can't wait to follow along. :)

Anonymous said...

Cindy - what great news for your family!! I am so happy for you and will pray for smooth sailing (ha ha - is that possible in IA?) :)
Congratulations to you all. And praise God for His unending love and faithfulness to those who wait on Him.
Interestingly - we just took a family extended weekend trip and faced many of the same issues... Ahh - but compared to this time last year it is all "small stuff".
Congrats again!

Lindsay said...

Isn't that the most perfect timing? Awesome - I have goosebumps for you guys. I am so, so happy for you and your girls.

Jennifer M said...

Oh wow, I have the tingles for you right now. I truly pray this is not another false start. My heart is smiling at your news.

Maureen said...

Hooray! It sounds like you are having a wonderful and well deserved vacation. Congratulations on your exciting news that the adoption of your girls may be proceeding this summer. I understand your hesitation in truly believing that it is going to happen this time, but allow yourself to be excited. Put your faith in God and He will lead you through the process. Hooray!

wilisons said...


How exciting to hear that your dreams of a family united will soon be coming true. I'd welcome this writers cramp anytime! I am looking forward to following along on this piece of your journey!

p.s. Have you heard that children who were adopted often have more of a struggle with attachment/control issues around the time of the adoption dates, abondonment dates and birth dates? I often find them correlating with my daughter now 5 adopted as an infant.

Dee said...

Oh Cindy, I have been praying you would get those girls home!! I am so excited for you and your family!! If there is ANYTHING I can do, I will!

teshak said...

I have been following your journey since you went to get Kenny. I enjoy your ensights on adoption as we adopted two girls from Kaz in 2005 and 2006. When we adopted our first, at 10 months, we thought that would be all since we have a bio child as well. Then we got an unexpected call that her bio mom had another baby and we accepted and were off to get her, paperwork and all.
Hearing that you now are able to finish your adoption of the girls is wonderful!The road to get there is hard but so well worth it as you know. Congratulations and I can't wait to continue reading about your journey!
Tesha in Oregon

smileysk8 said...

WOW! What wonderful news!! I am SO happy to hear it! Praise God!

Karen said...

Oh my gosh! Hooray!! Congratulations, the hard work will absolutely pay off in the end.

Michele said...

Cindy that has been in our prays for you for a long time. We our so happy for you, you are a blessing to all of us that are going after you in this world of adoption. Have a safe trip home!!

Hilary Marquis said...

Praise the Lord!!! Your girls can come home?! I am so happy for all of you.