tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post9057154039476851047..comments2024-03-08T13:52:22.224-07:00Comments on LAJOY FAMILY: Day 3 - Fun Despite Downturned FacesCindy LaJoyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16486626867331586704noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-63080608367523103672009-12-10T05:32:21.635-07:002009-12-10T05:32:21.635-07:00CINDY, Sounds like you just need that one breakthr...CINDY, Sounds like you just need that one breakthrough w/ the girls where they give into their hearts just once. Your family's love, although great, may not be enough for that breakthrough. Remember you have had help w/ Joshie when love wasn't enough and he needed a little extra help? This falls under the same realm, although not exactly the same thing. I understand the approach of not being pushy and overwhelming, but these are just children making a difficult decision. They need an "it's okay to go" from the adults they look up to. Would they let you meet them? Maybe go to dinner w/ a coach/ teacher? You all are just riding on the Faith that brought you here in the 1st place. And You are doing the right thing. I still think it will happen. I'm also glad that God has given you all a quiet heart about this. He is truly w/ you all!Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09659463113945322643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-60145743228738377332009-12-10T05:16:17.005-07:002009-12-10T05:16:17.005-07:00My thoughts and prayers continue to be with "...My thoughts and prayers continue to be with "Team LaJoy". I truly believe patience is a virtue and you all have been so patient for so long that it may just take a true test at this point. Enjoy the time you have and remember that God works his wonders in even the most mysterious ways.Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16680487517911586661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-12943756675027487022009-12-10T01:29:51.654-07:002009-12-10T01:29:51.654-07:00Dear LaJoy family,
We have been reading your bl...Dear LaJoy family, <br /><br />We have been reading your blog lately as we are also getting ready to travel to Petro-hopefully the coming month, and we were hoping to meet you there as well. We are appalled by what you are going through and admirative of how you are dealing with it. Maybe it is an issue of time and if yo can just prolongue the "bonding period" , the girls would evolve in their feelings. It must not be easy on them for sure. There was recently an article on a French Magazine, Marie Claire, on Romanian kids now in their 20's, who were getting organized to file a claim against the State because their adoption had been suspended when they were in their teens and Romania closed all international adoptions. They felt their chances had been taken away from them and their lives were now miserable. They also talked about how adults in the orphagane had told them to say "no" in court and had told them they were risking being sold or abused...and of course they trusted the adults familiar to them rather than the prospective family and now they were very sorry. I wish you could read such article, unfortunately the girls are too young to understand it, but some of the adults around her should read it...our hearts are with you. Yael and Jean-Christophe, from ParisYaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15600058845591381955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-39347689324902750882009-12-09T22:55:49.519-07:002009-12-09T22:55:49.519-07:00Team LaJoy: You're right in setting your pace...Team LaJoy: You're right in setting your pace for a marathon, not a sprint! Trust and love will be the key.<br />And please say "Hi" to Boris for us.<br />Bill, Cathe, David & KateBill and Cathe:https://www.blogger.com/profile/02667624893422056126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-88992383121737958562009-12-09T21:10:01.296-07:002009-12-09T21:10:01.296-07:00I want to shout "You Go Team LaJoy!!!" ...I want to shout "You Go Team LaJoy!!!" You are doing a great job loving well. <br />I want to ask... How many women get pregnant and then miscarry? How many women get pregnant then find out something is seriously wrong with their unborn child? How many Mother face hearing a doctor say their child has some serious life threatening disease? Because of all these heart ache situations do people go around telling other not to get pregnant, not to have children because it always ends in heart ache?? I THINK NOT.. <br />So why do people think they should do the same with adoption. <br />A family was just here in Taraz. They were here 4 years ago to adopt a precious little girl. At the very last moment one of the caregivers stepped forward and said she wanted to adopt this child. What?? They had already bonded with the almost 2 year old.. They were approved, but the lost her. They took home a different child but their hearts never stopped loving the first. They faithfully prayed for her through the years. Now, fast forward to the past July. Through God's intervention this family came back to adopt this precious child. The caregiver found it too difficult to have this child who has a disability with her leg. She would bring her back to the orphanage then back home. So for 4 years this is what the child has known. She was never told she wasn't adopted nor would be by this woman. The day the family walked in to see her for the first time in 4 years was the first time she knew anything about this other family. She took one look at this family of 6 and said no way in no uncertain terms. She had a mother and surly wasn't going to go with this strange family. <br />This family could have been heart broken could have been angry could have done a lot of different things, but the TRUSTED. TRUSTED that God had not brought them this far. They Trusted that God had their best will as well as this sweet child's. <br />When they left in Oct (yes way longer than they ever imagined they would be her) This precious sweet child was with them willingly and lovingly as a member of their family. <br />Adopting an older child is the greatest unselfish gift a family can give a child. Yes it is full of ups and downs and yes it can break your heart at times, but how often do we each break our Heavenly Father's heart by our actions. <br />Team LaJoy it is an honor to be able to pray and encourage you. It saddens my heart that people's hearts are so harden that they would attach another family how is in the mist of loving the children we each are called to care for. <br />I will stand with you in prayer. My love to you all.<br />Vicki an adopted mother of two in America and having the privilege of working with hundreds of orphans here in Kazakhstan praying daily for families like the LaJoy's to come and claim one of these precious ones for their own.Victoriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16567048047871407490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-89544292954080011182009-12-09T19:37:17.197-07:002009-12-09T19:37:17.197-07:00You are truly the strongest, wisest, most loving f...You are truly the strongest, wisest, most loving family I've ever had the honor of knowing. You and Dominick are exceptional parents and your sons reflect that in their compassion for their sisters. We love you guys and are praying for you. I'm actually at a loss for things to say..imagine that!Hilary Marquishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17074833890977655054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-49854564806685803722009-12-09T19:10:52.571-07:002009-12-09T19:10:52.571-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-20974735352729980142009-12-09T19:10:10.176-07:002009-12-09T19:10:10.176-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-48733944155563424102009-12-09T19:09:07.768-07:002009-12-09T19:09:07.768-07:00We will continue to pray daily for your whole fami...We will continue to pray daily for your whole family. The girls are apart of your heart no matter if they choose to go home with you or not. I truly believe the attachment they have to people at the orphanage is a good sign that they CAN attach. I just hope those attachments don't prove to be the reason they stay. How heartbreaking for everyone involved. I know you want your 2 daughters home, but I also know you don't want to bring them home unwillingly. They just have no idea how much better life can be for them in a family. They just don't know. You are such a wonderful family and I know you could handle them even if it took them a while to warm up to you once home. BUT you are very wise to not push things with them. God can work a miracle here. Either way, God is still in control. Still praying! God bless!smileysk8https://www.blogger.com/profile/10454480943112180090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-61553599724318414492009-12-09T18:53:41.507-07:002009-12-09T18:53:41.507-07:00This is your very real "beyond LaForet" ...This is your very real "beyond LaForet" labyrinth...putting one foot in front of the other, trusting the ins and outs, the twists and turns, knowing that God is with all of you every step of the way. <br /><br />(Changing gears...thank you for the very thoughtful gift, Cindy. It means so much--especially because you were racing to leave the country and thought of me.) <br /><br />Know you are all loved and are lifted up in prayer. Big time!Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00987278299229410465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-28263238539812222862009-12-09T18:49:26.653-07:002009-12-09T18:49:26.653-07:00You seem to have the right attitude. Just keep on...You seem to have the right attitude. Just keep on being yourselves and if it is meant to be, it will be. What more can you do, really? Though I do think it would be good to have Boris or Irina speak to a sympathetic trusting adult on your behalf so someone can explain to them the real options they have for their future not just their present. We're still rooting for Team LaJoy.Kelly and Snehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12694012810022647105noreply@blogger.com