tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post1955580216638246421..comments2024-03-08T13:52:22.224-07:00Comments on LAJOY FAMILY: Day 9 - Waiting on GodCindy LaJoyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16486626867331586704noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-65916540234902537592009-12-16T07:47:30.124-07:002009-12-16T07:47:30.124-07:00Hang in there. For us, in fact it was a miscarria...Hang in there. For us, in fact it was a miscarriage that originally led us to adoption. We have two home-grown girls, but after a miscarriage Sandy said something was missing in her heart. Something good needed to result for there to be healing, so we started considering adoption, and of course our lives are changed and the joy is immeasurable. Keep looking for the opportunity for something good that would not have happened otherwise. Only God knows His plan. We are praying for all of you.Treyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06872912471446935968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-48002355069619262072009-12-16T07:14:08.901-07:002009-12-16T07:14:08.901-07:00I am taken back by where you are. I had no idea o...I am taken back by where you are. I had no idea of what was going on until last night when someone mentioned your blog at an Olathe party we were at. Know that my love and prayers are with you all. I am touched by your thoughtfulness as you write about the "limbo" that you are in. Yes, God, knows . . . and trusting in this assurance is the way that we can all go through each day. May today reveal his plan for your family!Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07964761317927980008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-80354091094549254322009-12-15T22:28:57.715-07:002009-12-15T22:28:57.715-07:00Hi Cindy and Family,
if it is money you are worri...Hi Cindy and Family,<br /><br />if it is money you are worried about, I have a good plan to save money for you.<br />I travelled Petropavlovsk to Almaty by train. It takes 36 hours, has sleeper compartments, is very comfy, in fact is like being rocked all night in the cradle, and the trains are warm, nay hot! I thoroughly recommend it, and it costs only $60 for an adult, and I think $30 for a child. When buying 5 or more airtickets (let's hope it will be 7)...then this is a big saving!!! AND it saves you the price of a hotel room for the night. You meet so many nice people on the train, and it is a real adventure, and a wonderful way for you all and the boys to see their birth country at it's most glorious.<br />I did this journey 5 times in total, saved a fortune, and it was wonderful. If most Kazakhs can travel this way, then so can we.Jnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-48297169298845302332009-12-15T21:36:22.099-07:002009-12-15T21:36:22.099-07:00PS - To the boys - Soks says hi from Montrose! My...PS - To the boys - Soks says hi from Montrose! My kitties will miss all of you this Christmas.Cathy Hartthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14408101149792757888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-72568912929402264122009-12-15T21:23:33.740-07:002009-12-15T21:23:33.740-07:00Cindy and the team LaJoy - I found your blog and h...Cindy and the team LaJoy - I found your blog and have been following closely. First, I am so sorry. I like the miscarriage analogy.<br /><br />I have a dear cousin who adopted his 3 (now adult, then baby) children. They adopted a 4th and had her home for almost a year when the birth mom decided she wanted her back. In Calif - the law then was birth parents had a year to change their mind. Oh, they were so heart broken. I cannot imagine what it would be like to loose someone that had become part of the family, as your girls had to you.<br /><br />You are in my prayers in your search for another match. Your wisdom and kindness are amazing. Thanks for sharing your story with the world. CathyCathy Hartthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14408101149792757888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-17440018595015096892009-12-15T20:15:34.378-07:002009-12-15T20:15:34.378-07:00While I understand that you feel like you are wast...While I understand that you feel like you are wasting time and money waiting for the Ministry of Education and the holidays, maybe you need this time. You all need time to mourn your loss and while in reality I'm sure it will take years to heal, right now you are being given the gift of a few days to spend as a family and regroup. Another way to look at it.<br /><br />Continued prayers,<br />~ MaureenMaureennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-65113565042524980262009-12-15T20:15:33.838-07:002009-12-15T20:15:33.838-07:00Hopefully you will look back on this difficult tim...Hopefully you will look back on this difficult time and understand clearly why you are in this situation and why you have had to take each painful step. I am hoping that you find that very soon.Kelly and Snehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12694012810022647105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-9161090697757917732009-12-15T19:48:37.569-07:002009-12-15T19:48:37.569-07:00I pray for you and your family that whatever Gods ...I pray for you and your family that whatever Gods will is will come. I pray for you with groans and moans as I really don't know what to ask for .......<br /><br />I've followed your blog and share your pain and loss. <br />A fellow adoptive momAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-1290333248729996202009-12-15T18:44:18.031-07:002009-12-15T18:44:18.031-07:00I will pray for open doors and windows for you all...I will pray for open doors and windows for you all. <br /><br />Blessings!Calico Skyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03640365330149203615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-5212608688927192842009-12-15T17:36:05.651-07:002009-12-15T17:36:05.651-07:00Dear Cindy,
Although I would never make the compar...Dear Cindy,<br />Although I would never make the comparison to a non-adoptive parent, as they might become highly indignant, having suffered both a miscarriage and a lost referral (although we also had 4 spectacular young men we were privileged to raise), I would say the feelings of loss were equally devastating. In one there is the death of an actual living being, something no mother should suffer, but in the other there is the loss of a relationship with a known child, through pictures and tiny communications over years, that was horrendous as well. I actually cried more buckets for our Azerbaijani "daughter" as the loss never ends. She just keeps getting older in an orphanage, and we keep getting further from when we last "saw" her. And, knowing that you will never truly know whether your family could have escaped the train wreck you saw coming, I know the self-doubt would add another measure of pain. So, for you to admit to some serious mourning is not surprising at all. I am SO sorry that this has taken such a difficult turn, and I am so proud of your being willing to pick yourselves up, dust yourselves off and ask God, "where now?" It took us over a year to think about a new country after our plans for Azerbaijan faded. I love the smiles on your boys' faces; use their innate, wiggly bounce to put some joy in your steps for now, and know that your heart will heal only gradually and there will always be a bit of a jagged edge there. Some pains just will never completely go away, and I count miscarriage and lost adoption as two such cases. I personally find it better to wallow in pain for awhile, b/c then when I close the grief drawer it tends to stay closed longer (too painful to open), and by the time you get back to it, it is somehow less prickly. So, I am glad you are allowing yourself to grieve even as you smile at missing teeth and boyish shenanigans, and as you sort through new children to consider. Truly, you are remarkable and I hope you allow yourself to recognize that. God bless. SherryOhiomom2121https://www.blogger.com/profile/03512342459339771734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-90808039875127324462009-12-15T16:31:56.825-07:002009-12-15T16:31:56.825-07:00Josh, Matt, Kenny, I have been reading your blogs ...Josh, Matt, Kenny, I have been reading your blogs and because of my inability to figure out how to respond to each of you, I'm doing it on your family blog. Sorry about that. Maybe one of you can send me an email and inform me some.<br />As you know I went to Montrose and I want to thank you for meeting me and scaring me half to death coming out of the women's room! I spent the week holding Shea up so she could point to your pictures on the frig. I had to say your name when she pointed to each of your pictures. We are all anxious to see you again but we know you have important business to settle before you come home. No matter what happens, remember how many people love you and will support you through joy and suffering. Love to you all, Grammy JoanGrammy Joannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-48257837913383116532009-12-15T15:02:44.118-07:002009-12-15T15:02:44.118-07:00Miscarriage, death, one cannot name it, but mourni...Miscarriage, death, one cannot name it, but mourning is absolutely the process. Praying you'll know what God has in store for you soon.Carrie DeLillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07130418114627916690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-78501179749252441372009-12-15T12:47:35.519-07:002009-12-15T12:47:35.519-07:00Oh Ms. Cindy! We are sad for all of you. I know ...Oh Ms. Cindy! We are sad for all of you. I know you must be heartbroken. I love how you put into words exactly what you are feeling. Why is a common question when things like this happen. Don't you wish you could just for one minute have God tell you all the answers you want? But that is where our faith comes in and although I am the first one to admit I struggle sometimes I do ultimately know that "ALL things work together for GOOD for those who love God." He sees the future and maybe He knew that you wouldn't have been able to handle Angela. I feel sad for her and for her little sister for they will never know the wonderful life they could have had. I am praying that God would reveal to you soon whether he has another child/chidren for you so that you can move on. YOu have so much love to give and I bet there is a child out there somehwere who wants to snatch it up. I cried when I read your story about little Tanya and how she looked so forlorn because she couldn't go on an outing with you. Bless her little heart. You were doing a good thing. The fact that it did not work out is not your fault. even though it is heartbreaking at the moment I am so excited to see where this new path might lead you. Much love and prayers to you, Can't wait to hear waht God does for you. Tell the boys and especially Mashly that we love them. The Hines clan( cordell, Erin, Bethany, Ashleigh and Wesley)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-86560487073677053702009-12-15T12:36:09.293-07:002009-12-15T12:36:09.293-07:00PS...I should have introduced myself a while ago- ...PS...I should have introduced myself a while ago- I'm Becki (we are waiting for travel dates to travel to Kaz) we also have a blog and when things settle down send me an email with your email address and I'll send you an invite! (beckistone@ncwcom.com)Becki Stonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13221420982340157220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-21158499754841372352009-12-15T12:33:55.273-07:002009-12-15T12:33:55.273-07:00Team LaJoy continues to be in my thoughts and pray...Team LaJoy continues to be in my thoughts and prayers. It makes me so sad for this children to know of family members that have forgotten about them. It breaks my heart. Give your boys a hug for me- their blogs were touching. <br />I'm praying for you!!!<br />HugsBecki Stonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13221420982340157220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-50663048987639830032009-12-15T12:21:52.913-07:002009-12-15T12:21:52.913-07:00May He open doors that He wants opened and close d...May He open doors that He wants opened and close doors that He wants closed.<br /><br />Peggy in VirginiaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com