tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post7906916508821619583..comments2024-03-08T13:52:22.224-07:00Comments on LAJOY FAMILY: Wrestling with GodCindy LaJoyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16486626867331586704noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-15900079708798001612009-03-20T11:30:00.000-06:002009-03-20T11:30:00.000-06:00Wow, you ARE James 1:2 So hard to see the joy whe...Wow, you ARE James 1:2 So hard to see the joy when we are IN the trial though, isn't it? God will close the doors where doors need to be closed.Carrie DeLillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07130418114627916690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-40886489832923798912009-03-19T13:46:00.000-06:002009-03-19T13:46:00.000-06:00Instead of thinking about RAD and what these child...Instead of thinking about RAD and what these children could do to your family; why don't you just focus on what your family can do for the girls.<BR/><BR/>Your family can do a lot to make life better for these girls. Right?<BR/>They are nice girls and they need a break. You are the only ones in the world trying to help them right now.<BR/><BR/>Maybe they will be a perfect fit and be the forever daughters you dream of, but maybe they will be children that have been through too much, they are not exactly all together any more; you can give them time, safety, space, education, care so they can pull themselves together and be the best they can be.<BR/><BR/>I love to read about the Silcock's<BR/>http://www.allourboys.com/index.htm<BR/><BR/>They have adopted all those problem boys and just aim for giving them the best shot at life possible. Maybe they will never get over the low IQ, the RAD, the special need, the FAS and the PTSD; but that family will love them as much as possible and encourage them to make the best of what they can be.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-56409651338210301542009-03-19T07:50:00.000-06:002009-03-19T07:50:00.000-06:00Love your posts Cindy, sorry this is all happening...Love your posts Cindy, sorry this is all happening to you.<BR/><BR/>Ive been thinking of posting for days, but finally getting time for a quick one. <BR/><BR/>I just finished a book called "Knowing Gods Will" by M. Blaine Smith. Absolutely loved the book, written by a Presbyterian minister. Its a great guide - things are cut and dry to figure out as you well know right now. But I thought the book was helpful in giving some guidelines to help make decisions. The book was written in the 1970's and updated in the 1990's. I got it from the library and read the 70's version and got a lot out of it, so much so that I ordered a copy online.Kristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03478512270416530336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-38718238092769781892009-03-19T07:40:00.000-06:002009-03-19T07:40:00.000-06:00OH, Cindy I forgot.. A great book is "How am I Sm...OH, Cindy I forgot.. <BR/>A great book is "How am I Smart" by Dr. Kathy Kock out of Texas. She has a ministry called Celebrate Kids and has amazing insights on kids and how God created us each different. Seeing how each child is smart in different areas and how to bring out those natural smarts and increase the weaker ones is something she is able to put into practical words. She has a website to read more. I think it is a very helpful books for all parents but especially parents with children who have faces so many challenges before they are ever brought home. I have given an numbers of them as gift because I believe so much in them. <BR/>His mercies, grace and peace to you and your family.Victoriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16567048047871407490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-35255718129713768132009-03-19T07:36:00.000-06:002009-03-19T07:36:00.000-06:00Hi Cindy:I am about to jump off a cliff but I do k...Hi Cindy:<BR/>I am about to jump off a cliff but I do know who will catch me, no matter what.. <BR/>Interlink only works in Shimkent and Taraz in south central Kazakhstan. Team members do go up to Astana at various time during the year to connect with other workers in the country. I was afraid your girls would be far away. I will pray that some how or some way I will have the opportunity to travel up north. My email is vcharbonneau@interlinkresources.org or kazakhvictoria@gmail.com. Feel free to contact me on either email address if there is something I can do to help.. Know I will continue to pray for your precious family and your girls still in KZ. <BR/>Be encouraged HE will not forsake you. <BR/>Following HIS call isn't always "sane" looking to the rest of the world, but HE will carry us through the storm and give us joy beyond our wildest imagination in the mist of the heartache. My heart fills with joy each time I hear of a child being brought home to a forever family even if there are many challenges the children are so much better off than if they had stayed where they were.<BR/>My love to you and your familyVictoriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16567048047871407490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-38725581043818139542009-03-19T05:40:00.000-06:002009-03-19T05:40:00.000-06:00My heart breaks for you and it is hard to keep foc...My heart breaks for you and it is hard to keep focused on HIM when the storm is waging around you and your boat seems as if it will capsize. <BR/>Trust - Trust in HIS perfect plan. <BR/>It is easy for people to say "count your blessings with the 3 sons you have." "These girls are older and may bring to much heartache into your home." Both of these are true statements, but doesn't the Bible teach to "Fear Not"... If God is calling you to bring these girls or other children home then HE also will give you the strength. <BR/>There is a family in Texas who have 4 biological children, a 7 year old from Russia and a 13 & 15 year old from Kazakhstan. The to from KZ will be here 2 years come May. The 7 year old from Russia has been here over 6 years. Her issues are huge and the two from KZ have added many of traumatic days to their lives, but they have also brought joy. The 15 yr old has some major anger issues added to the mix, BUT what would happen to these children if they were still in KZ. How would they grow up and be able to function? <BR/>It is so hard to keep focused on HIM and stepping out of faith when "friends" and "well meaning" people are telling you "you are crazy" or worst that God couldn't be calling you to adopt. There are some horror stories out there, but what about all the success stories that aren't heard. What about the life these children wouldn't have if they had been left in the orphanage. The percentage of children that die once they leave an orphanage from suicide, drug overdose, abuse, etc is close to 50 %.. Do people understand the cost of sitting back and doing nothing out of fear that their lives may be disrupted in a big way. The long term commitment is enormous but the results are life giving in most cases. <BR/>Be encouraged my friend. Don't give up. I am praying for your sweet girls and for your family. My heart always burst with joy each family I know who take the plunge and bring an orphan into their heart and home. <BR/>If you want you can send me an email with the girls town and orphanage and I'll see if I can visit them once I'm in Kazakhstan. It is a large country and I'll be in Taraz in the southern central part, but I will see what I can do if that is helpful to you. <BR/>I will keep you all in my prayers. <BR/>His mercies, grace and peace to you and your family.Victoriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16567048047871407490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-65329586330788902802009-03-18T15:41:00.000-06:002009-03-18T15:41:00.000-06:00Well, as I sit now in tears...I'm glad that you he...Well, as I sit now in tears...I'm glad that you heard (and read) what God wants you to know. <BR/><BR/>The older I get, the more easily I can recognize situations that were TRULY nightmares to me at the time showing me SOMETHING...whether it was patience, or faith, or learning how to take God's word for an answer...something. <BR/><BR/>Those girls ARE yours. One day, they will see all you've gone through for them chronicled in this and you'll know that this too, passed....Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01828552745708177768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-18873232708924185292009-03-18T11:46:00.001-06:002009-03-18T11:46:00.001-06:00Thank you for your blog, it gives us hope. You are...Thank you for your blog, it gives us hope. You are in our prays. You help me to get though the hard times that we are facing also. To see your faith makes me happy & thing I can do it.Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18223205495807248426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-43096851660170775572009-03-18T11:46:00.000-06:002009-03-18T11:46:00.000-06:00Yes !!!! Im so glad to read your post - with tears...Yes !!!! Im so glad to read your post - with tears in my eyes, Im willing to admit. You have tons more love to give, you are overflowing with it and you give it so readily. And going by past experience - its easier to live with if God closes the door than us. I know its not easy and the mountain is probably high -but one think i needed to remind myself when things were taking too long on our level (and it wasnt half as bad as with you) is that GOd is still higher than any paperwork, govt officials or agencies. <BR/><BR/>Big hugs and hopefully a good sleep for your tonight.<BR/>JoyceJoycehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11103468879639388287noreply@blogger.com