tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post7481502622833349968..comments2024-03-08T13:52:22.224-07:00Comments on LAJOY FAMILY: A Love Not LimitedCindy LaJoyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16486626867331586704noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-44654200879188841092016-07-29T04:57:53.655-06:002016-07-29T04:57:53.655-06:00Hi Cyndi...I read your post on the FRUA website th...Hi Cyndi...I read your post on the FRUA website then went to your FB page and found this blog. Just saying kuddos to you for your open mind and loving heart.. <br />I have no words of wisdom, just sharing my story. I have a daughter adopted from Russia, now age 9. Smart as a whip but suffers from learning disabilities. I suspect mild FASD as well, but I believe with our support in place she will be okay eventually (well, I think she is pretty okay now!).<br />But the other story I have is that of one of my bio sons who is 29. He was an incredible child with a gentle nature and so very smart! He won his school typing contest in 3rd grade, even beating the principal! He won a state essay and would have met the governor (but he got chicken pox!!) When he was a child, my sister in law used him as a test subject to administer an IQ test to when she was in grad school. He scored with an IQ of 135 and she said he could do anything he wanted.<br />However, his first year of college, he started developing odd behaviors and to sum it up quickly, he was diagnosed with schizophrenia. Now he is pretty well controlled by meds but he is on disability and he needs much assistance in caring for himself. He does not remember to pay bills and if not monitored will try to spend his disability money on computer parts instead of rent. He can still be a bit paranoid about people's intentions, and we really have to enforce hygiene. Sometimes, many times, I want to just give up or cry or scream because of the life he should have had, but doesn't have and never will. So when I read your story of hope, well, it gives me hope. I HOPE for him to have a significant other someday who will not have a mental illness and will love him. This is my biggest wish. He gets so lonely sometimes he tells me, and it breaks my heart daily.<br />He is lucky now because his younger brother lives with him and this gives him a sense of independence, but I worry about the future. Prior to diagnosis, he disappeared for 2 years and we only found him after he was admitted to a hospital in western Colorado. I fear he will disappear again someday if he becomes too unhappy. But I will always keep on as long as I am on this earth to help him. So bless you, truly, you are an amazing mom and an inspiration for me!Sharihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14277744958726707760noreply@blogger.com