tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post7019088304271983171..comments2024-03-08T13:52:22.224-07:00Comments on LAJOY FAMILY: Battle Hymn of a Tiger Mother...A Different TakeCindy LaJoyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16486626867331586704noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-90417998715479158462011-05-10T12:07:44.820-06:002011-05-10T12:07:44.820-06:00I love this post! You are right, we are not tiger...I love this post! You are right, we are not tigers :) I think someone once told me that we need a different measuring stick to guage our childrens' successes. They don't fit the mold that children can cram into. Your kids are going to do important things, and you don't need a degree from an ivy league school to be successful! The Lord does not measure success according to man's standards.Hilary Marquishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17074833890977655054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-60399998822283510632011-05-10T07:18:57.495-06:002011-05-10T07:18:57.495-06:00Love, Limits and Faith – surrounding our children...Love, Limits and Faith – surrounding our children with these will help them mature into adults who value people over things, caring over status, heart and soul over external accomplishments, emotional wisdom over social position. <br /><br />Loved everybody’s comments, especially “Heaven over Harvard.” At the end of our days here, it's not money, status, or public acclaim that we take on with us.<br /><br />Peggy in VirginiaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-15586155167708750282011-05-09T13:17:06.090-06:002011-05-09T13:17:06.090-06:00I haven't read the book, but I did see an inte...I haven't read the book, but I did see an interview with her and she said that her book was a journey to the realization that her tiger parenting was too strict and she was really critical of herself and her choices in the interview. <br /> <br />I think you can look around and see examples of American parents being too permissive. I look around and I am disgusted by the 80 lb 3 year olds drinking mountain dew and bossing their parents around. <br />When I think of the pathologically permissive parenting I witness almost daily...I DON'T think of you!Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13134327455413087261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-48396863186125316142011-05-09T10:57:16.680-06:002011-05-09T10:57:16.680-06:00Heaven not Harvard!Heaven not Harvard!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-5173785500575822952011-05-09T08:24:35.083-06:002011-05-09T08:24:35.083-06:00Well said, though you are a tiger in many ways, Ci...Well said, though you are a tiger in many ways, Cindy. You will fight to the end for your kids' right to be who they were meant to be...and not what the world would try to make them. You will fight fiercely to protect them from being judged or limited by others in any way. You are strong and "fierce" in your own way, as mothers are meant to be, "battling" for their kids to be allowed to be their best!<br /><br />Four of our kids are gone from home now. Still four to go. Of our older girls, one is a middle school guidance counselor, one a college grad recently turned stay at home wife and mother, one received her masters in special educaton on Saturday, and one an elementary education major and a hall advisor on her campus where she will be a junior next fall. Accomplishments, yes. But like you and Dominick, my hubby and I are much more proud of the hearts they have for others. One loving the students she mentors, counsels, and cares deeply about. Working creatively to encourage them they are each priceless young people who deserve a chance, loving all the ethnic and individual diversity in her school where hers is the minority race. One loving and treasuring the time she can take for her husband and new little one, being deliberate about her parenting and madly in love with both, reaching out to others in their church, helping with high school youth group. Another ready to teach kids with diverse and challenging learning styles, comfortable in helping people of all ages who need that extra help to navigate life. And the youngest grown one being a help and encouragement to her residence, also helping with HS youth, trying to be faithful with all God puts in her life to accomplish. <br /><br />Bragging? No, just so thankful God has worked in each of their hearts, that they also know that success is loving others as God has commanded, cheering on the "under dog", as God Himself cares for the humble and meek. We are humbled and thankful that they learned how to work hard to achieve their goals, recognizing<br />God's work and blessings in their lives. And ever thankful for the love and support they give each other and the four still at home, who can't begin to know how blessed they are to have the older four caring and cheering them on from the sidelines.<br /><br />Our last four struggle more with school, have yet to catch the "dedication bug". But our prayers are the same for them, as I see yours are for your children...that they become caring adults, able to manage what God blesses them with or to know where to go for help if they're struggling, disciplined to always try their hardest and be thankful for all God allows them to accomplish in any way for Him.<br /><br />Sorry so long and about my kids, but it was by way of illustrating your same point. Regardless of the path our children choose, we pray they are walking with God and loving others as He would have us love. My favorite Bible verse is probably Phil. 2:3 for the fact that if I could "do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit", I would truly be living life as God calls me to. That's what we're striving for and p;raying for here.<br /><br />Nancy in the MidwestAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-76579088014019701482011-05-09T08:06:16.387-06:002011-05-09T08:06:16.387-06:00Thank God you are a heart and soul mom. Each of y...Thank God you are a heart and soul mom. Each of your children is already a resounding success, and each member of Team LaJoy is making rippling waves of love throughout the world. Lookout Washington and New York, you are about to be conquered.<br /><br />Love and traveling mercies,<br />LaelAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-28387957345679222952011-05-09T07:58:08.065-06:002011-05-09T07:58:08.065-06:00The story of a “failure”
Made a living with his ...The story of a “failure”<br /><br />Made a living with his hands – his trade, a common carpenter..<br /> <br />Many people looked down on him, mocked him, despised him. Some thought he was crazy.<br /><br />As an adult, homeless and dependant on the hospitality of others.<br /><br />Tried as criminal and sentenced to death.<br /><br />Died a pauper, without even the clothes on his back.<br /><br />Did not confirm to the world’s measure of how to live.<br /><br />Kept true to his mission. Kept his focus steady, followed God’s leading for His life, spoke truth and wisdom, loved well. and sacrificed his own well-being for others.<br /><br />Truly, God’s standards for success do not match the world’s standards of success. <br /><br />Peggy in VirginiaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-42433751896895133592011-05-09T04:28:38.258-06:002011-05-09T04:28:38.258-06:00I too look at that kind of achievement as belongin...I too look at that kind of achievement as belonging to a culture that I don't understand. Being a military brat I do understand differences, and learning how to express themselves well, trust other people appropriately and set boundaries...that would be what I see as successful at this point. Even some adults need you to be a mom model for them. Blessings.angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10451988954537329260noreply@blogger.com