tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post5004836404950992536..comments2024-03-08T13:52:22.224-07:00Comments on LAJOY FAMILY: Doing the Hard ThingCindy LaJoyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16486626867331586704noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-26223344544377014552008-01-09T20:36:00.000-07:002008-01-09T20:36:00.000-07:00We are so sorry for the loss of your little friend...We are so sorry for the loss of your little friend, and we are keeping your family and his family on our prayers. I think you did an amazing job guiding your children through this, especially Matthew. I lost one of my best friends between 1st and 2nd grade I think it was. My parents did not allow me to go to the funeral..I am sure they were trying to act in my best interests. I have always regretted that...missing the chance to tell her goodbye. I know it was a hard thing for Matthew to do, but I am sure it impacted him, and that it will help shape him into an even more caring young man. I hope that the rest of January brings you great joy! Congrats on the newest adoption...we wish you a speedy process!Jamiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18412464281816697941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-38868898769539529272008-01-09T11:29:00.000-07:002008-01-09T11:29:00.000-07:00It is so hard to understand how a life can be lost...It is so hard to understand how a life can be lost so young. I think that you made the right choice in taking Matthew so that he could honor and pay respects to his friend. Matthew sounds like such a mature boy with a heart of gold.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07846910996787144453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-85155443086185505382008-01-09T07:07:00.000-07:002008-01-09T07:07:00.000-07:00Thank you, again, for sharing your heart with all ...Thank you, again, for sharing your heart with all of us. We also deal with the protection vs. teaching issues on many levels for our two seven-year olds: mental and physical illness, racial issues (the kids are learning about segregation in history in school, and it's very hard to explain), dangers (as in, most people are good, but some are bad), internet use (why all internet use must be carefully supervised by parents), rude language, parents slapping children (which they saw in a store a year ago and still remember), rude drivers, etc. And then there are all the questions about adoption and what it means to them. But in the end, as much as I want to protect their innocence, I think their best protection is to gently and lovingly expose them to the tough issues in life so they will one day be prepared to walk on their own. And of course, teaching that trusting God and following Him as best we can is the best protection of all.<BR/><BR/>On the car issue... I'll trade with you anytime... You should see our van after a car trip!<BR/><BR/>Love and blessings from friends in VirginiaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-74768650868212132742008-01-08T18:07:00.000-07:002008-01-08T18:07:00.000-07:00It is so hard to decide what to protect them from ...It is so hard to decide what to protect them from and how long. It sounds like you guys made the absolute right decision for your family and Matthew understood he was showing respect for his friend and would want the same done for him. BTW, I so hear you on your #10 goal, I am HORRIBLE at this one and it drives my husband crazy! Happy Second New Year.Mom to 2 Angelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08460090939357915712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-46723458123428888512008-01-08T08:54:00.000-07:002008-01-08T08:54:00.000-07:00What a powerful post. I love what you wrote about ...What a powerful post. I love what you wrote about not necessarily protecting your child, but walking with him hand in hand with encouragement and support. That is exactly how I hope to raise our son. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10808598168839614514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-42959451829032824852008-01-08T08:46:00.000-07:002008-01-08T08:46:00.000-07:00This is a lovely blog, and the posts very touching...This is a lovely blog, and the posts very touching...I was crying a little myself when I was reading about the loss of your little friend, and learned a lot about how to really deal with children when under extreme emotionally trying situations.<BR/><BR/>Thankyou for sharing, and hope the rest of 2008 is a year full of blessings for you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04283371140346602856noreply@blogger.com