tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post3972187059367545802..comments2024-03-08T13:52:22.224-07:00Comments on LAJOY FAMILY: Layers and LayersCindy LaJoyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16486626867331586704noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-1977191175783009582010-09-29T20:29:05.634-06:002010-09-29T20:29:05.634-06:00So much understanding of our children to what is v...So much understanding of our children to what is valuable and to be held dear. Recently, my six year old daughter had a moment like this....first I should mention that ever since she came home at the age of four she has told me that she did not want to grow up and she wanted to stay little forever...she only says that once in a while now at the age of six...mostly this is due to my pointing out the good parts of being a "big girl" and that she would always and forever be my baby...I back this up by calling her baby all the time so I think she feels secure. But recently, I was packing up some more clothes into the outgrown clothes bin..and she came into the room and saw a few items that she had come home from Kaz in....some sweet shoes, and shirt, and pants. She furiously tried to fit these shoes and pants on her body and just cried in such frustration that she could not get into them....even though she knows she has grown a great deal since the time those items fit her. Her tears and emotion were much more than normal for her these days and I could tell she was grieving that little girl and wanting to be her again for a little more time...and my daughter is only six. Our kids have such an appreciation for life at such a young age because of their earlier hard lives. Their understanding of life and the ability to not take things for granted is one of the blessings they have received as a result of their past.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04426343816023815832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-83798200740462898062010-09-27T18:45:38.922-06:002010-09-27T18:45:38.922-06:00Is there anything you don't handle well. Cind...Is there anything you don't handle well. Cindy Lajoy, you make even this beautiful with your words, your actions and your blogging! Won't you be my mama?Carrie DeLillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07130418114627916690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-43436296095341918562010-09-27T11:44:40.059-06:002010-09-27T11:44:40.059-06:00No articulate words here, just deep and joyful gra...No articulate words here, just deep and joyful gratitude that Angela was "home" with you when she crossed this threshhold. I so well remember that we were longing, even keening for the girls this time last year. <br /><br />Bless you both as you continue over this passage and move on to share more of lifes wonders.<br /><br />Ms JaneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-29561285584226663402010-09-27T10:39:34.595-06:002010-09-27T10:39:34.595-06:00What a blessing the language is there to discuss s...What a blessing the language is there to discuss such deep, important thoughts and feelings, Cindy. You handled it beautifully, though I'm sure at the time, it might have felt like blundering through, so taken by surprise were you both. You have indeed been gifted with articulate daughters, open and ready to share their hearts with you. What tender thoughts and feelings Angela expressed, wanting to experience more childhood in the safety of your home. She had hinted at not wanting to grow up before, according to another of your posts. The addition of the physical change brought it all out in the open for you to once again deal with it in the special way a loving mother can. The contrast between the girls' worlds is stark. God's amazing goodness shines through in the difference between their former life and their life as a permanent part of Team LaJoy. <br /><br />I'm so thankful these girls found love and family in all of you!<br /><br />Nancy in the MidwestAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-19382982280091673552010-09-27T08:30:53.611-06:002010-09-27T08:30:53.611-06:00I wonder, in this society, how many girls mourn th...I wonder, in this society, how many girls mourn the passing of their childhood, or if they are so enculturated, that they can hardly wait for any sign that they are heading pell mell into adulthood, and how many parents celebrate with a new camisole, micro skirt, and tights.<br /><br />Thank God, that Angela has a wise mother like you. Thank God, that the LaJoys have sensitive daughters that can articulate their emotions. That freedom is born in the safety and wisdom of your home. I celebrate with each of you this fulfilling of family.<br /><br />And the necklace is a wonderful, symbolic celebration of one of life's challenging moments.<br /><br />Delighted to be able to watch from the sidelines the wisdom, love, and growth of your family,<br />LaelAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-14128368856008898342010-09-27T08:25:38.456-06:002010-09-27T08:25:38.456-06:00Beautiful post. How fortunate you both are to have...Beautiful post. How fortunate you both are to have each other! I remember that my daughter started menstruating only about 6 months after coming home and it was so traumatic to her. Nothing I said or did helped. At least Angela can express her feelings, which is SO important.<br /><br />You might want to keep track of the date on your calendar, so if she gets moody in a few weeks you will know why.<br /><br />Tell Angela I send long-distance hugs.Deehttp://deescribbler.typepad.com/my_weblog/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-22875154802541674092010-09-27T08:23:54.880-06:002010-09-27T08:23:54.880-06:00Wow. I do not see how you could have possibly han...Wow. I do not see how you could have possibly handled that any better. What a gentle and kind way of helping your daughter through something that was so difficult. The necklace was a lovely gesture, one that I may have to borrow someday... :)Hilary Marquishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17074833890977655054noreply@blogger.com