tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post3904330471651920869..comments2024-03-08T13:52:22.224-07:00Comments on LAJOY FAMILY: Dear Birth Mom - From JoshuaCindy LaJoyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16486626867331586704noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-74354685308793324782010-02-07T13:00:36.822-07:002010-02-07T13:00:36.822-07:00I am a birthmom who just stumbled onto your blog. ...I am a birthmom who just stumbled onto your blog. I am of the baby scoop era generation. I had the love of a one year reunion before the agony of renewed silence. <br />As a person who campaigns against adoption unless under extraordinary circumstances, I am here to express how touched I am by your story. <br />You are right, you will like all parents someday see mistakes that you are making. But, the one mistake you are not making is in denying that your children are those of another mother. Giving them the freedom to not have to replace the children you might have borne, giving them the freedom to explore who they are as individuals is the most loving gift you can give them. I applaud you for having the extraordinary strength and wisdom to be their adoptive parents. <br />Asundaasundahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14712089313091570097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-87357856746005233392009-11-24T00:29:49.199-07:002009-11-24T00:29:49.199-07:00lajoyfamily.blogspot.com is very informative. The ...lajoyfamily.blogspot.com is very informative. The article is very professionally written. I enjoy reading lajoyfamily.blogspot.com every day.<br /><a href="http://www.paydayloanstation.com" rel="nofollow">canadian payday loans</a> <br /><a href="http://www.paydayloanstation.com/online-payday-loans.shtml" rel="nofollow">online payday loans</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-41366278662352794552009-07-31T08:57:28.087-06:002009-07-31T08:57:28.087-06:00Hi, a friend from RevGalBlogPals pointed me to you...Hi, a friend from RevGalBlogPals pointed me to your blog. Our son age 16 came to us through open adoption, so our experience with birth parents is a bit different. I thought you might appreciate a poem he wrote almost 3 years ago for an eighth grade assignment. You can find it <a href="http://midliferookie.blogspot.com/2006/10/manboys-poem.html" rel="nofollow">here</a>I will pray for Josh and your family as you work through these issues. It sounds like you are doing an awesome job- hang in there! I look forward to reading more of your entries.mid-life rookiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07477633857058924514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-40378415539501935722009-07-24T12:12:51.391-06:002009-07-24T12:12:51.391-06:00It's so much like God's pursuit of us, isn...It's so much like God's pursuit of us, isn't it? Thank you for sharing-Carrie DeLillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07130418114627916690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-90471010712020749222009-07-22T11:37:36.531-06:002009-07-22T11:37:36.531-06:00What a wonderful idea! I know this much be therape...What a wonderful idea! I know this much be therapeutic for all the boys, and what courage and love Josh shows! You must be proud.<br />DeeDeehttp://deescribbler.typepad.com/my_weblog/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-91577193644392070972009-07-21T07:19:43.493-06:002009-07-21T07:19:43.493-06:00It must be the teacher in me, but I could understa...It must be the teacher in me, but I could understand it all, perfectly (except the end part where he signed his birth name), and it was just so genuine. It's always amazing to me that kids as young as 5, 6, 7...they get it in a way that *I* don't get, and can make some sense of it, even if on a basic level. His thought process is amazing--and his ability to rationalize is surely what allows him to still love, though he still questions. <br /><br />Kudos for a real and honest way of having them express their feelings in safety and security, while getting a shot of what their hearts are saying. I can't even pretend to imagine what it must be like for you or for any of your boys, but I have no doubt that you are all going to get through it and be better for it. That seems to be the LaJoy way.<br /><br />Please tell Josh I was very impressed with his writing!Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01828552745708177768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-91769348922908200882009-07-21T00:02:53.924-06:002009-07-21T00:02:53.924-06:00Cindy, he seems to truly understand so clearly. Yo...Cindy, he seems to truly understand so clearly. You've done a great job helping him understand so well. Grant is 6 too and either doesn't completely get it or doesn't want to. He seems to understand that other adopted kids had "first parents" but doesn't totally accept that his situation is the same. I think at some point, I will have him write this letter too. What a great idea. I hope this helps Josh tremendously.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09659463113945322643noreply@blogger.com