tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post3236482507145931927..comments2024-03-08T13:52:22.224-07:00Comments on LAJOY FAMILY: To Angela and OlesyaCindy LaJoyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16486626867331586704noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-40088263079416185562010-01-24T18:49:42.164-07:002010-01-24T18:49:42.164-07:00"Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a n..."Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new." 2 Corinthians 5:17<br />They WILL be restored, because they WILL know our Savior. Love you!Carrie DeLillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07130418114627916690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-17738039527655230382010-01-23T02:57:40.054-07:002010-01-23T02:57:40.054-07:00So happy to see you all family.
Praying for all ...So happy to see you all family. <br /><br />Praying for all your family.<br /><br />Cindy, I wonder if you would consider sharing how you explained to your children that they were adopted. Especially with Joshua. Hannah knows the word adopted, but none of the meaning behind that in terms of her birth mother and abandonment. How did you approach it, especially with Joshua's RAD. Hannah's had such a stuggle with attachment issues too. I'd really appreciate your advice.Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12711583593777948158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-34558463713682261662010-01-22T22:44:51.215-07:002010-01-22T22:44:51.215-07:00Cindy, it is wonderful to find you again after so ...Cindy, it is wonderful to find you again after so many years, and to read about your dear family. What a blessing for these lovely children to have you for a mother, bringing love and the light of Christ into what until now must have been a terrible darkness. I plan to follow your continuing saga! May the Lord bless and keep you all!<br /><br />Love, Julie Kane RoperJuliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15790576375316603927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-78284781779243482052010-01-22T20:32:07.669-07:002010-01-22T20:32:07.669-07:00Hi guys, Wow, life is good for you. Although I don...Hi guys, Wow, life is good for you. Although I don't understand the "cold". Is it really that cold???<br />I am so excited for you. When will you be returning??<br />I am hoping the girls can be friends. Maybe on facebook to start. I know they need to learn English. (There is no Russian in my house).But we can make it work.<br />When will you be returning? I know you are ready to be in your own homes. <br />God Bless. I am so very happy for the whole"Team LaJoy"!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-66061359689678396412010-01-22T17:06:08.165-07:002010-01-22T17:06:08.165-07:00What a legacy you are giving not only your daughte...What a legacy you are giving not only your daughters but also your sons. I understand, at least in part, your anger about their past and about people who not only don't care for their children but actively expose them to evil. You will never be able to erase the past. Even Oleysa will have residuals, but you are offering a future of love and of learning coping skills that will aid them in dealing with their past as it returns to affect the present. They are blessed to have you as parents just as you are blessed to have them as daughters.<br /><br />Love,<br />LaelAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-84822645144854965452010-01-22T11:02:48.269-07:002010-01-22T11:02:48.269-07:00Beautiful letter, Cindy!
Lv,
catBeautiful letter, Cindy!<br /><br />Lv,<br />catAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-61829874646470256172010-01-22T10:08:57.051-07:002010-01-22T10:08:57.051-07:00Your anger is so understandable. Children adopted ...Your anger is so understandable. Children adopted at any later age have experienced things that we can never change, good or bad, and it can take a long time to get to know the real child inside.<br /><br />I hope your anger lessens though. It's understandable, but no less toxic. I have the horror stories too to discuss with my kids someday and it's my hope that any residual hostility I may have towards their birthparents will stay where it belongs - in the past. It doesn't have to be the Christ-like or the politically correct thing to do, but no amount of anger will ever help my children. You'll be at that place too. Good luck.<br />JAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-36251497061195705682010-01-22T09:11:43.718-07:002010-01-22T09:11:43.718-07:00Praise God for His blessings -- we rejoice that th...Praise God for His blessings -- we rejoice that the girls will soon be in your care (and always in His!).<br /><br />I really empathize with your distress over the horror movies. In our family, we talk about "brain trash." It is everywhere -- supermarket tabloids, conversations at school, sneaks onto the computer screen even when we are very careful, going to the mall, posters in store windows, trailers for movies, magazines in the Dr.'s office, even words on people's clothes. We are forced to teach them all kinds of things that I didn't know about until I was much, much older. What is happening to childhood??? I am trying to teach the kids to filter stuff out, and replace bad stuff with more positive thoughts. <br /><br />Recently one of my kids came across a word in the dictionary which I won't repeat here. And the Bible has some pretty difficult stories too. So even if we stayed home and never turned on the TV or computer, they would still get exposed to all kinds of things.<br /><br />I want so much to protect them, but I have to do that by teaching them to make choices about what they allow into their brain.<br /><br />OK, that's my rant for today.<br /><br />Peggy in VirginiaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-55734606373116041602010-01-21T21:30:41.946-07:002010-01-21T21:30:41.946-07:00Beautiful. God bless you!!!!Beautiful. God bless you!!!!Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17815531223717629073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-54108424998207973872010-01-21T20:16:52.732-07:002010-01-21T20:16:52.732-07:00Oh Cindy, I know exactly how you feel! I have been...Oh Cindy, I know exactly how you feel! I have been through it with my kids. It's so heartbreaking to know what they have been through. My kids were exposed to all kinds of horror movies and explicit things and I don't allow that. They have an outlook of innocence. They want innocence, not to be hardened and callous, and I know your girls will want that too. You can't turn back time but you can replace negative influences with overwhelmingly positive things.<br /><br />I wouldn't worry about teaching them to love God. Just take them to church and show them what real Christians look like - walk the walk, long before you try to talk the talk. They will get it. It will take time, but they will. They are good girls. They have an advantage over a lot of kids because they've seen cruelty and racism, but now they will see and experience kindness and love, and they will have a clear choice to make. I know they will make the right choice, with y'all to guide them - they already have, in so many ways.<br /><br />I pray for you every day, as I know it's taking patience and fortitude to endure the long sojourn in a foreign land. Now you will have a much better understanding of how the girls will feel their first few months home. God is showing you such a valuable lesson. <br /><br />Stay warm!<br />XOXOXOX<br />DeeDeenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-15908304363174159932010-01-21T20:14:11.477-07:002010-01-21T20:14:11.477-07:00That was BEAUTIFUL! And you owe me a laptop...I t...That was BEAUTIFUL! And you owe me a laptop...I think I have shorted out the keyboard ;)Hilary Marquishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17074833890977655054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-24139279733146899802010-01-21T19:37:35.688-07:002010-01-21T19:37:35.688-07:00Cindy - When your family gets settled and I get do...Cindy - When your family gets settled and I get done with school next year, I would love to see if the girls would be open to a little coaching. It works wonders to build resilience esp if it happens before age 18 - and it is fun for kids. I know your love will go a long way.<br /><br />I can only imagine their docs where not unlike patients with traumatic backgrounds. The sad thing is that this goes back generations. I have heard those who have committed aweful crimes say how aweful their own childhoods are. The girls parents are not happy - I offer a shift and that is to pray for their happiness. For, authentically happy people do not hurt others - because that is not happiness. When I saw that, I quite wanting to hurt back and started wanting to teach happiness. That said - it can be PTSD to read things like your girls records. You are in my prayers, friend! I know the love of daughters!Cathy Hartthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14408101149792757888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-44298271103936798302010-01-21T14:06:33.571-07:002010-01-21T14:06:33.571-07:00Welcome, wonderful and dear little girls!!!
SO man...Welcome, wonderful and dear little girls!!!<br />SO many people are so grateful for your lives!Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01828552745708177768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-65710717697082256632010-01-21T13:52:36.027-07:002010-01-21T13:52:36.027-07:00Hy,
i am lisa. I was in the plane from petropavlo...Hy, <br />i am lisa. I was in the plane from petropavlosk back to europe two weeks ago. Please, can you keep in touch with me for some information and help? lisa from paris.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35990418.post-84402905775764552642010-01-21T11:44:39.480-07:002010-01-21T11:44:39.480-07:00We'll be working on two translations over the ...We'll be working on two translations over the weekend - consider the one of this post my personal "baby gift" for you both. It should be done by the time you get home.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com