As Alethea left last night, I was pleasantly surprised to see Matthew offer her a big, heartfelt hug. Matthew is not usually openly affectionate with other women...all of his teachers have been politely spurned and other women in his life whom I know he cares deeply for have to tease him and "chase him down" for a hug. I am the lucky one to whom he gives his affection willingly, freely and easily. Matthew is also in many ways our "deepest" child, he is extremely perceptive and he ponders the Big Questions of life and loves to discuss his thoughts about those Questions. He is a terrific judge of character, and if someone is not a person of quality he tends to quietly turn in another direction.
This morning, I received a lovely gift from Alethea, completely unexpected and it spoke volumes about her depth of understanding of our family. Perhaps it is his finely tuned 6th sense that caused Matthew to "give it up" last night for Alethea without a moment's hesitation. After reading the gift of a poem she wrote for us, I believe Matthew must have felt her sincerity and pure love without it ever having to be expressed openly. I asked Alethea if I could share her writing here on the blog, and she graciously gave me permission to post it here.
Alethea, as we spoke about last night, there are some people who may not ever find themselves adopting but God uses them to offer encouragement and support to those who do. You have been placed in the unusual circumstance of being surrounded by adoptive families of all shapes, colors and sizes, and from your own words it is very obvious that you understand better than most what adoption really means. Thank you so much for your beautiful expression of what our family is all about. I will treasure your poem for years to come.
Child of My Heart
for Dominick & Cindy, Matt, Kenny, and Josh
My little boy, I hold you close
Before you say good night,
And pray that God, who dwells above,
Will keep you in His sight.
When you were many miles away,
He turned my thoughts to you
And led me far across the world
To a land so strange and new.
And from the moment that we met
I knew you were my son.
You brought me joy I'd never known
If you had never come.
Each day I thank our God for you,
For sending you to me,
And pray, whate'er the years may bring,
That you will always see
That though you are not of my blood,
Of me you are a part--
You simply came a different way,
Dear child of my heart.
Alethea, you may not yet have children of your own, but you certainly have a Mother's heart.